More Working Moms, Dads Dilemma!

Moms work again, dads dilemma. (Photo: Getty Images)

RINI (30) after giving birth, decided to stop working and focus on taking care of her first child. Now that your child aged 1.5 years, Rini want to work again. Moreover, his friend had offered jobs. Rini />
actually did not hesitate to abandon her baby, because at home there someone who helps take care of housework. Rini intention was expressed to Andrew (34), her husband.

Unfortunately, the talks have not found said they both agreed. Andri has not said yes, but also did not expressly reject the wishes of his wife.

How should Andri face the dilemma? Is it hard for the husband to allow his wife to return to have a career?

key: discussion and compromise

As is known, the demands and necessities of life increasingly difficult. On the other hand, employment is very limited so that more people are considered as objects rather than subjects. Human race to find and take advantage of a job as an opportunity.

Work is a choice. But when faced with a wife or housewife then the work becomes a conditional choice.

This means there are some principles that should be discussed or compromised associated with greater interest.

This becomes an important and crucial because it touches other relevant parties, particularly the husband's ego that it threatens the trust, conflict between the desire to expectations need to be held together so that the renewal of commitment.

As a wife, maybe Moms feel better to know the needs of the family and are called to alleviate the economic burden, but Dads worried about his wife's role to be reduced or even considered as sources of n ew threats (fear of losing her husband's career, wife dominant, neglected families, levels of love to change).

Can my wife work?

Question above not only met with may or may not, but refers to the background and the reasons why the wife would work, what kind of work and contribution to family work. Does this contribution interfere or push?

So the format options are offered not as a woman who must choose family or career, but as an option to take the opportunity to work with continue to manage the family. So it does not compare but draw together for mutual support and complementary.

Hold fast to the principle of household

A principle that must always be adhered to the couple that marriage is an option, the option to fight for common expectations grounded in a sense love and mutual trust.

family dynamics are not simply referring to the understanding instistusional (only rely on custom, the husband should always be seeded higher and unconditionally) but leads to the relationship companionship (private equity is involved, mutual understanding).

However, its implementation does not conflict with the socio-philosophical principles in which the male remains a symbol of leadership in the family which is based on the principle of a household, such as love, trust, hope and commitment. n

Step right before Moms work:

1. Find a reason that very reasonable and acceptable partner. Do not corner the role of husband as income less!
2. Involve your husband to determine the choice of occupation and give assurance that the work is not to leave the family precisely because the opposite works inspired by family, and many other positive reasons.
3. Collect several types of desired job. Try to correspond with education, choose the type of work with flexible working hours, will be better able dilembur work at home.
4. Map of the occupational risk to be received relating to the 'family owned the lost' or taken up and prepare substitute an equivalent alternative. Suppose your child during the day along with an accomplice, then the night is a full time Moms with him; weekend is special family time; income Moms is allocated to insurance or the child's future.
5. Even more important is how to find the right situation to give meaning to the couple, the key is no less important is to empathize with the couple, especially when he forbids you to work. (Source: Mom & Kiddie)

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