Addressing Behavior "Weird" Teenagers

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FUTURE adolescence is a time when personal ego child's growth is reaching its peak. No doubt, the various behaviors that are considered "weird" by their parents, they run. How to deal with it?

To be honest, no one would deny that being a parent for a teenager it would be easy. "Teenagers are basically hard-wired to all aspects of their parents," said Stuart Goldman, MD, director of psychiatric education at Children Hospital in Boston, USA.

Adolescence is a time of rapid change, both physically and cognitively. "Teenagers have started to argue and fight against the parents," said Goldman was quoted as saying WebMD.
/> Not only denied, many teenagers who behave as if hating and hostile to parents. "It is very difficult indeed for parents react when it happens," says Nadine Kaslow, PhD, a psychologist who specializes in problems of children and families at Emory University, Atlanta, USA.

As parents, you must remain calm and try to enjoy periods of teenage rebellion, which is usually completed when he was 16 or 17 years. However, do not let them badly and being disrespectful to you.

When that happens, you have to explicitly apply the basic standards of behavior. One solution is an intensive approach to them. For example, by telling him, "If you can not say something nice, do not say anything."

By letting your teen know that you are here for him, although he was not too matter, will actually make him feel comfortable in your hand. He will begin to open with the problem, which of course is a rare occurrence happens. Behavior of other teens plural, for example, is too preoccupied with communication that are now more sophisticated.

It's ironic, when other forms of communic ation that teens do, like SMS, fuel, and phone calls, it makes them less communicative, at least with people who live with them. Although in today's world, prohibits the use of all electronic devices is not only unrealistic but also not good.

"Always have a network with their friends is very important to most teenagers," says Goldman .

solution, you should see the big picture. Susan Bartell PhD, an adolescent psychologist in New York says, if your child is applicable both in school, chores at home, and not entirely out of family life, perhaps the best way is to "break moment".

It's OK to set reasonable limits, such as SMS's can not receive calls during dinner. Some parents choose not to let the teens have a computer in their room because it will be harder to supervise its use, and this is very reasonable. Many experts also recommend that you set the rules that the computer must be turned off, at least one hour before bedtime.

It is a way to ensure that teens get more sleep. One of the best ways to limit how many minutes you spend your teenage telephone and SMS is to ask him to pay his own cell phone bill. Always monitor what your child is open when he online the internet, especially if he's open social networking sites like MySpace and Facebook.

you still have a house and own computers, so check to control the internet and other software to monitor the use of web-sites a strange and questionable. Other behaviors that may be troubling you to yourself teenagers is to ignore the curfew.

Supposedly, that parents do before is to conduct a small survey to the child's friends, what they usually expect at home. This is done so that the curfew restriction is reasonable for them and start living it.

"Part of what teenagers do is test," said Goldman. "But the fact that they really want the limits so that parents need to keep these rules strictly," he continued.

Goldman recommends that adolescents be given a grace period of up to 10 minutes of the initial agreement. If they are late too, you need to manage the consequences should he accept, such as prohibiting an evening out for a week. If the child is always going out of the house because it is not at home or is unhappy at home, you should talk to them and find out what causes it.

However, if the curfew rules You are already appropriately and in accordance with the development of children, it is time for you to establish and then enforce the consequences if your teen violates. When you make the rules, you must mean sungguh.Anda can not just bluff their sauce because they will usually harder.

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